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  1. I try to be careful about what I say to others about my husband…I always want others to have a good opinion of him and not think poorly of him because I needed to complain. It’s true too that people nowadays are just in marriage for themselves when marriage is about honoring God and seeking to do His will with your partner.

    • Melissa

      Boundaries are so important in our marriages and presenting our husbands as God sees them rather than how we see them in the moment is a good rule to follow. Unfortunately, you’re right, society goes into marriage for the wrong reason far too often. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • Melissa

      Thank you so much for your kind words Terri! I’m honored that you would want me to guest post. We’ll be in touch! God bless!

  2. Melissa, I always look forward to your posts as they are always spot on and to the point. We have always made our bedroom a place for just us. Once in a great while when the kids were real little we would let them sleep in our bed when we had a bad thunderstorm, but that was it! We don’t have a tv in our room and don’t bring our computers or phones in either and we have always tried to not air our marital difficulties with parents or friends. Marriage is hard, but those types of habits make it even harder. Thanks for your wisdom and insight. – Amy
    http://stylingrannymama.com/

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Amy, for the kind words! Yes, marriage takes intentional effort but the addition of these distractions often are what makes it hard. Loss of boundaries and potentially trust lead to pain. Thank you, again, for taking the time to stop by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Julie! I’m glad you found it beneficial. Yes, we have far too many forces who are all too ready to tell us how to live life outside of God’s design. Many blessings, Julie!

  3. As a believer and disciple of Yeshua/Jesus, and a daughter of the Creator of the Universe, I want to tell you how thankful I am to read this! My husband and I strive to keep our bedroom intimate to US and of course to Adonai, and it is so encouraging to know that we are not the only ones. Thank you for this. 🙂

    • Melissa

      I’m so glad you found the post encouraging and beneficial. Not all of it is popular to society’s standard but we are not to conform to society. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  4. Thank you for this clear and God honoring message Melissa. As a fellow therapist I understand how vital it is to get these kinds of messages out to others. Christian marriages are hurting for many of the reasons you indicated. God bless you as you journey forward!

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Joy! It is an important message for Christian marriages and families as a whole. Thank you for stopping by and God bless your journey as well!

  5. Even as one who is part of “our world of divorces/separations”, I recognize the value of setting these boundaries especially the ones with our children. Whether married or as a single parent, kids should understand that mom’s bedroom is hers and should be taught to respect that.

    • Melissa

      Yes, kids need to be taught the importance of boundaries and their role and place in the family. These items are important for their sense of security. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  6. My youngest daughter got married this year. I found myself sharing many of these tips. I love the poster bed visual. Its a great teaching tool. Your tips of kicking the unwanted out of the bedroom are great. You lead us into smooth transitions that gaurd against severing connections.

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