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  1. I am so thankful for this series. The sad reality is, even if your child doesn’t have a smartphone, their friends do. My son was introduced to pornography on the way home from a football game while riding the bus by some of the other guys. Thankfully, we had already talked about it, and he told us how uncomfortable it made him. But that’s the reality we live in.

    • Melissa

      Yes, unfortunately pornography is coming at our kids from all places. That’s why it’s so important that we are having these conversations early. I’m glad you had the conversation with your son and that he was willing to let you know about the situation. Good job momma! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience. God bless!

  2. Thank you so much for addressing these tough topics. I don’t have kids yet, but the fear of what they will be exposed to already comes to mind from time-to-time. You have such great ways to address this issue of porn! It gives me hope for the days when my husband and I will most likely need to have these conversations with kids.

    • Melissa

      It is far too common place now and a legitimate need for all parents to address. But it’s definitely not a fun conversation. I have the benefit, if you will, of having these conversations multiple times over. So I pray this post can be helpful for parents and parents-to-be! Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  3. I want to be good at talking through the tough stuff, but I am finding that I’m just not! I didn’t have an example of that growing up except “don’t do this or that” and so I feel so ill-equipped! Articles like this help point me in a better direction. So thank you!

    • Melissa

      These are definitely not easy topics to have to discuss! The more comfortable we are as parents, the easier it is for our kids to receive the information. I’m glad that you found the post beneficial. God bless!

  4. I’ve taught my kids to turn their heads away when they are accidentally exposed to porn online for any reason, that the images are seared on your mind forever and that it’s difficult to undo the damage. Porn teaches men to damage and harm their wives in the future, and they can never be satisfied with loving their wives the way God intended. It’s sad, the devastation that porn has caused.

    • Melissa

      It is sad and devastating. It’s so good that you have had this conversation with your kids. And it really isn’t just men who are watching and seeking porn. Each of the porn addicted children that I am working with are girls.

  5. Really good advice here. I have ministered to son many young men and women drawn into porn. I told one young man to invite Jesus to watch it with him. He was desperate to quit. When he finally did invite Jesus in, Jesus really showed him that the girl on that screen was a person that Jesus loved and not an object. It was the beginning of recovery for him

    • Melissa

      That is such a beautiful switch and perspective change. How wonderful that he was able to see the girl as Jesus does! You are a gem to so many people! God bless, Alice!

  6. Thank you for providing these resources and for giving us the dialog that needs to happen. Being proactive about it helps my kids know why it’s wrong and they aren’t curious about it, because they’ve been informed!

    • Melissa

      Proactive is so much easier than retroactive. With retroactive we are having to do damage control and weed out what may have been seen. I’m glad you found the post beneficial. God bless!

  7. We are in the early stages of understanding sex – age 8 & 6. We started by talking about our body – from the beginning (menstruation and pregnancy came up early because little girls want to know about babies – so we’ve been very scientific about it so far). But now the 8 year old wants to know about kissing and how women get the baby… so we’ve talked about sex (only to answer the questions she has and we move on when she seems satisfied). I know the more in depth talks will come soon but I dread the Pornography talk. Right now I monitor their screen time, but sometimes they want to search for something – and bam there is a sexual img… it is rampant. One day they will stumble upon it when I am not there to shield them. I hate this part of our culture that tries to lure them away from innocence.

    • Melissa

      Yes, unfortunately is it rampant. She she starts to learn more about sex it is so important to teach her God’s beauty and design of it so that you can contrast it against our culture’s messages. Building that foundation of understanding is so key. These are not easy times we are living in. God bless Tiffany!

  8. Thank you for this. I am passionate about encouraging a relationship with my children where they will feel comfortable to talk to me about everything. I discuss this with my 13 year old son and express the danger in looking at those things and how we believe it’s a sin etc. We also take extreme measure to protect him. I say extreme because of his traumatic past there are methods we have to use in our parenting of him that we wouldn’t with children with no trauma.

    • Melissa

      It’s so awesome Heather that you have taken measures to protect your son and keep him safe from the evil of pornography. This is all the more important for children who have endured traumatic pasts and may already have a skewed understanding of love and/or sex. God bless you and your family’s journey!

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