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  1. As the child of a suicide victim, and as one who has struggled with and I’m finally walking in victory over self-harm and suicidal ideations, events, and even a successful one where they brought me back from the dead, I wholy concur with your steps listed in thiwls blog. I’m not a therapist, but I am an advocate. So often parents are just told oh they’re just doing it to get attention and they take it personal and then, the worst possible thing, they call their Bluff. My mother would still be here if her siblings and priest had not decided to call her Bluff after I got married and moved away. She succeeded one month after my wedding.
    Because I was taught by my mother that suicide was a one-way ticket out of pain, I inadvertently taught my children about suicide. Every one of the girls has had thoughts, but by God’s grace, I was also able to show them someone fighting those thoughts with the truth! Because of the false thoughts in my head, I strove to build a strong set of Truth in their hearts towards themselves. And I tried so hard to make it so that they could talk to me.
    This series that you have written, I pray that it will save lives, heal hearts, and connect families!

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Christine, for sharing your experience. Suicide, far too often, does get viewed as a solution to a problem. Calling a person’s bluff is a very dangerous view. God bless you and your family.

  2. This is such an important and heavy topic that needs to be talked about with our kids. We live in a broken world and it’s tough as a parent to teach them the reality of how broken it is with out people not knowing how much Christ loves them.

    • Melissa

      So true Mihaela! It is important that our children know that Christ loves them and how much the world does not – even if it claims to. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Calvonia. I’m glad that I can provide you some practical and applicable steps. I will be praying for both your and your adult child. God bless!

  3. Rebecca Jones

    I had to write another blog post myself after hearing about three in one including a pastor. And sure enough last night as I clicked through the FB feed was a note from someone I didn’t know, ” I will be off line for a while, my daughter hanged herself. “

    • Melissa

      Yes, it is important that our time with our children is not just carting them from one activity to the next but genuinely engaging with them and getting to know them as people.

  4. Melisa,
    Thanks for tackling the tough stuff. My daughter went through severe depression as a child and teenager. They were completely tough times. I wish I had your blog back then. Your practical steps are what I had to learn, trial by error sometimes. With all I’ve gone through and how depression has affected me and so many in my family, I added a Mental Health Resources page to my site. https://sherrystahl.com/mental-health-resources/ Can you email me if you’re ok with me sharing your Website and these pages specifically on that page? Praying God draws many to your site so countless kids are helped to stay alive and get free like my daughter did!
    ~Sherry Stahl
    xoxo

    • Melissa

      Hi Sherry! I’m sorry to hear that your daughter struggled with depression. That is such a difficult age anyway and then adding the black cloud of depression can feel so hopeless. Thank you for your desire to share these posts and the site! God bless!

  5. This is so important and thank you for writing about it. I think in Christianity we are afraid to speak openly about this topic and others like it. And then parents are left wondering what to do. You’ve also reminded me to make sure I keep my cuddle time with my son, no matter what.

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Carrie. I’m glad that you found the post beneficial. As a mental health therapist, the topic of suicide is one I’m dealing with on an almost daily occurrence. However, it is a topic that not a lot of other people know how to talk about it. And cuddle time is always important! God bless!

    • Melissa

      Yes, emotional neutrality is the hardest component on this list of how to respond. I’m glad you found the post beneficial. God bless, Mary!

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