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  1. Great information! There’s a lot of pointing blame at Millenials, which gets tiring because I’m a Millenial. I served in the military for 13 years, paid for my own college education, and started my own business. The problem, I believe, is how most Millenials were raised- to have things handed to them because their parents wanted more for them than they had as a child. As a new parent, I sympathize with that mentality, but I wasn’t raised like that and so I hope to not raise my child to feel entitled. Thanks for the great tips! I will definitely use them!

    • melissa

      First, thank you for your service! I have a huge soft spot of all military members. I did my mental health internship at Offutt Air Force Base and loved it! Second, I agree. The kids are the way they are because of parenting. I truly believe it is well intended but it has major negative ramification! Thank you for stopping by! God Bless!

  2. I love this! I saw an entitlement mentality in the majority of Americans when I moved here to the U.S. from Guatemala. I was surprised that they had so much and felt entitled to other people’s money when they were squandering their own.

    I decided to teach my kids differently. Last year we took a Dave Ramsey course for teens, and all of it made perfect sense to my kids, because that is how we live.

    • melissa

      It is so sad to see. I know every generation says the next one is worse but there really is a decline in responsibility and overall contentment with the children. Thank you for reading and commenting! God Bless!

  3. Emma

    These are great tips. This is something that we have struggled with with our son. All of our other kids are very successful and responsible adults, but my son has struggled with supporting himself due to his feelings of entitlement. Last summer he ended up attending a failure to launch program where they helped him learn to stand on his own two feet. I really wish that he had gotten these lessons when he was young. Parents of younger kids, don’t miss out on these tips!

    • melissa

      We all have our own strongholds and areas of weakness that we have to work through. It sounds like your son has made headway or at least realized he needs help. All the best for him and for you! It’s hard to watch your child struggle! God Bless!

  4. Nodding my head in agreement all the way through 🙂
    We love the financial peace program and teach our boys the concepts of save some, give some, spend some. They love the kids books.

    I also find myself often reminding then that needs and wants are not the same thing.
    Great post!

    • melissa

      Thank you! I work with many families that are struggling with entitlement mentalities in their children and they often wonder where to start. Thank you again for reading and commenting. God Bless!

    • melissa

      Thank you for such kind words! We started focusing on some of these principals from a very little age. I remember paying our daughter for helping me pick up sticks when she was about two! (probably about two quarters!)

  5. Excellent thoughts! I was raised this way and plan to raise my children this way but, as a millennial mom, it is almost something we are made to feel guilty about. Thank you for your insights!

    • melissa

      I agree! I certainly can feel like I’m getting disapproving looks when I don’t allow my children to act in a certain way. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. God bless!

  6. Kristi

    This is so important. My mother and I were just discussing this yesterday. I am baffled by how parents refuse to teach this to their children and then as adults their children are still relying on them to get them out of messes that happen in college or work!

    Your tips are important things for children to learn.

    • melissa

      I really believe parents are doing what they believe is best for their child in the moment but are failing to realize the negative ramifications as an adult. Thank you for reading and commenting! God Bless!

  7. Great list! I love the practical ways to equip them and help them think ahead since I work weekly with college students who are getting themselves constantly into troubles or debt and then trying to hide it from their parents! Then we have to pray through the stress and lies they have lived under! They have helped me see what skills I want my kids to be able to deal with before they leave home.

    • Melissa

      Thank you Jennifer. I too see many high school and college age kids who are ill equipped at life because they weren’t taught appropriate life skills. It saddens me. Thank you for stopping by and for being a support for the college students. God bless!

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