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  1. Dawn

    Thank you for this post, Melissa. Recently, I was going to put on “something sexy” for my husband, and I realized I felt embarrassed to do so. I grew up in a home where being overweight was a reason to be de-valued, and I have struggled with eating issues most of my life. I always thought my value in my self was in how “good” I looked or didn’t look. So, I obsess about food, sometimes my gym time, and it becomes an endless cycle. I eat XYZ food, so I have to be “good” later and eat XYZ or exercise this many minutes. I swing back and forth between obsessing and not caring. I have even denied myself food when I am upset, to punish my husband. I know this isn’t God’s design for my view of food, exercise, self-worth, and self care. I think this is something I have struggled with most of my life. Thank you for this post as a good reminder of God’s design for the body, and how to have a healthier view of our body.

    I also appreciate your thoughts on sex. As a sexual abuse survivor, I had distorted thoughts about sex and the body, and it is still difficult to understand God’s design for sex. Great post!

    • Melissa

      Thank you so much Dawn for having the courage to share your personal struggles! Far too often our worth gets caught up in our view and society’s view of our physical appearance. It is a battle that so many of us struggle with.

      God’s design for sex is so beautiful! It is both a physical and spiritual act between husband and wife to give love and be vulnerable in a way only your spouse was designed to know.

      Thank you again for stopping by and for sharing your experience. God bless!

  2. These are great, Melissa. I have struggled with one or two of them and know how hard it can be to overcome. I love that you didn’t just point out the misconceptions, but offered helpful steps to overcome.

    • Melissa

      I think each of us have struggled with at least one or two of them! In our current society it’s hard not to. But yes, it’s not just about acknowledging with the misconceptions are but our need to heal and move beyond them. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  3. I can completely relate to #1. My body identifies me. For years I heard about being fat and ugly and how that made me unlovable… I was told it over and over for so long that it is a part of my internal tape. God is re-writing it, but it is so hard to overcome.

    • Melissa

      Oh Tiffany, I’m so sorry that that was the message you were receiving. Sadly I think this is the message far too many people hear. And it absolutely takes root. I’m glad God is helping you heal. God bless your journey!

  4. Number five scared me. I have been suffering from chronic pain for years now. I have had sad moments when I feel I need to give up praying for a healing but I hope the Lord will help me not to slip into number five. 😢

    • Melissa

      Yes, #5 is a scary place for many people to be. I pray that you experience healing in both your body and in your spirit as the days of pain can take a tole. Thank you for stopping by Donna, God bless!

  5. Women have so many misconceptions about their bodies. We need to learn to accept ourselves the way God made us and make the most of what we have. I love all the advice here!

    • Melissa

      Yes, learning to accept ourselves the way God made us is so important. His standard of beauty is the only standard that matters. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your insight. God bless!

  6. What a great post on how to wade through these misconceptions! I like that you listed an action plan of what to do if we struggle with the misconception.

    • Melissa

      Thanks Julie! Unfortunately, with the increase in social media, provocativeness of ads and entertainment, and nonchalance of sex – these are the misconceptions that take place. Thank you for stopping by and commenting! God bless!

  7. Many of us think that it’s our body defines our personality while the looks and the beauty of the heart have such a difference. We need to see ourselves like God does.

    • Melissa

      Amen! Yes – if we were all able to see ourselves the way God does, our whole world would be a much different place. So many of life’s atrocities take place because of feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, and self-loathing. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your insights. God bless!

  8. Melissa,

    What a great post. I look back and wish I had appreciated what I looked like ten years ago or twenty years ago and how I should appreciate where I am now. I need to let your post sink in. I just told my family I was done boating because I didn’t want to put a bathing suit on. Silly because I love spending time my family at the lake. Yes, there is more to me than how I look. Thank you.

    • Melissa

      I’ve had these thoughts, too. Being more positive and appreciative of how my body looks in all seasons of my life. There is far more to all of us than how we look. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and insights. God bless!

  9. A informative & concise post Melissa, our body- mind connection is so important for our spiritual health & vice a versa!
    Having chronic health conditions has been ‘the’ greatest mental challenge & I am a seasoned clinical therapist!
    I’m so glad I have a strong relationship with Jesus!

    You’re most welcome to drop by for a cup of inspiration anytime.
    Jennifer

    • Melissa

      The connection is so important and unfortunately we are living in a society that seems to be neglecting the spiritual and rewriting the body to be the spiritual. I’m so glad I have a strong relationship with Jesus as well. I pray for my clients who don’t have a relationship with our Savior as I see how much more difficult their life if without His hope. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your insights. God bless!

  10. Very deep and needed. I am trying to become a more intuitive eater and struggling like crazy to get away from the mindset I have regarding my body. Thanks Melissa.

    • Melissa

      The misconceptions we believe about our body are often rooted in personal and emotional pain. It doesn’t help that we live in a society that often encourages and/or celebrates these misconceptions as well. Thank you for stopping by Char and sharing your experience. God bless you journey and healing!

  11. Thanks for these points, Melissa. I don’t think there is a woman ever who never struggled with her body image. Those of us who have experienced sexual assault can also identify with #5 – our body is our enemy. Thankfully, God is in the business of restoration and redemption. His love is truly transforming. Thanks for linking up with Grace & Truth!

    • Melissa

      Yes, I believe all women do struggle with body image at one time or another. And I am forever grateful that God brings emotional and spiritual healing to those who seek it. Thank you for stopping by and God bless your journey!

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