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  1. Amen! I don’t understand the race to make their child the sassiest. Yet, it seems some are doing just that. It will be a nightmare at 13. It also isn’t attractive. This was a really great point to role model classy and I had been thinking about it but hadn’t defined it. You did so beautifully!

    • melissa

      Thank you for such kind words! At the ripe old age of almost 5, my daughter can identify what it means to be classy and will steer away from clothes that are not. “That does not look like a lady!”

  2. You are so right! While I’m not a fan of toddlers exercising bossy lips or disrespect in any way, I have grinned at clothing slogans that say things like “Mommy’s Bossy Little Girl” or something similar. My girls are all grown up now and I’m happy to say they are two classy young women. 🙂 I do buy clothing for gifts sometimes though so I’ll be sure to keep this in mind. I also agree that modeling classiness is important for all of us. Other young ladies, not necessarily our own daughters, are watching us. They need to know what classy means and that it’s not “out of style.” Great points!

    • melissa

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting! It’s important that we aren’t encouraging and aiding the behavior through our own actions! God Bless!

    • melissa

      The sizing seems true to fit in my daughter’s case. In our crazy world of skewed definitions for both girls and boys I think it is important for us to create and reinforce the our desires and expectations for them. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. God bless!

  3. I love this. We talk about all of these topics in our home. I do get sass from two of my girls and I blame the tween and teen transition. However, they are respectful young ladies who love the Lord, are modest and enjoy relationships with their peers, family and other adults. And I am proud of them. We remain transparent in our household and have very real conversations about life and how our faith affects our living. Thank you.

    • melissa

      Maryann, that is so great that you guys have transparent conversations with your children. That is so important for them to understand their role in the world around them. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  4. Definitely a very needed post and advice. As our daughters were growing up, we always prayed that they would be “sensible, chaste, domestic, and kind.” Sassy has no place in our little girls’ lives.

    • melissa

      Those are great characteristics for our girls to become. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  5. What a great topic, Melissa! My daughter and I have similar tastes and share clothes. She is definitely more classy than sassy. This would be so helpful when she was little to go through!

    • melissa

      It is so hard with my daughter because everywhere we go she is seeing examples of sassy little girls. We are continually having this conversation. Unfortunately she has been on the receiving end of a sassy girls comments but thankfully she has come to realize (at the ripe old age of 5) that this hurtful and not how God wants girls (anyone) to be. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! God bless!

  6. Great wisdom! I have boys but can also I believe go for them in some ways, especially with logos and T-shirts that are made for toddlers 🙂 I also like your point about you being an example of classy to your kids. Thanks for sharing this 🙂

    • melissa

      Yes, the baby and toddler onesies and shirts seem to be getting more and more vulgar. I see the kid and preteen boy shirts to be focused on laziness. Which only fuel’s societies flames that boys (males) are worthless and women don’t need them. It’s truly disgraceful. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  7. WE have one girl in our house that is full of sass. It’s our dog so we nicknamed her sassafrass. She is persistent and I use her as an example to my children of how to be respectful, patient, loving, and kind instead of bossy and sassy.

    • melissa

      That’s so great that you are able to use her as an example for your children! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your example! God bless!

  8. It’s so important to live how we want our kids to turn out! Now as an adult, I find myself going back to the good ways and advice of my parents even after I’ve rebellion certain areas

  9. I love this!! I am raising two little boys to be respectful and chivalrous. It’s important to me that they have some classy young ladies to be around! I wasn’t raised as “classy” as this, but I was taught to respect myself and my brothers in Christ. This is a great post and one I hope is shared and lived out! <3 <3

    • melissa

      Katie, I wasn’t raised as classy as this either but I wish I had been. There were many thoughts and issues I had to overcome (and still struggle with) that potentially wouldn’t have affected me as strongly if I would have been raised more this way. That coupled with the level of disrespect I see now in our little girls and grown women. I want very much to make sure my daughter embraces the idea of “classy”. You know, we could always find a way for my daughter to meet one of your sons! 😉 Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

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