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  1. We do need friendships, but we need the right ones. It is important to talk about breaking up with friends that don’t fit. Blessings to you as you share truth about this tough topic!

    • Melissa

      Thank you Liz! Yes this is a tough topic that takes careful and prayerful evaluation. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  2. These are very helpful thoughts, Melissa! I mentor many younger women, and this is helpful. It’s helpful to have the exact words to describe healthy friendships and unhealthy friendship patterns. Great post!

    • Melissa

      Thank you for your kind words Stacey! The topic of friendship can be one of the hardest to navigate, especially as women, since we tend to place so much importance and emphasis on them. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. God bless!

  3. we become the people we go with. They’re very influential. Hence we should show discretion when choosing friends. But yea Jesus is still the best friend we could ever have and he’d never fail as a caring friend!

    • Melissa

      So very true Angel! Jesus is absolutely the best friend we could ever have! His comfort, encouragement, and wisdom far surpasses all others. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  4. This is very interesting. I love how clear you have made things. I had to make a hard choice to leave a long-time friendship about a year ago. It feels lonely at first, but if it is unhealthy, it needs to end.
    Thank you for your thoughts on this topic.

    • Melissa

      That is such a hard decision to make. But yes, if it’s unhealthy and hindering your spiritual walk, then it needs to end. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience. God bless!

  5. There is much wisdom in this post. Navigating friendships can be difficult, especially knowing when to let go and move on. May we learn to do this with the grace and love of Jesus as then both parties benefit and can grow. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

    • Melissa

      Thank you Joanne! Yes, we have the ultimate teacher in all aspects of life if only we follow His model. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  6. Lots of things to consider here! I’ve created boundaries with a friend because I found myself being drained and out-done always by this friend. It’s a dance as you said!

    • Melissa

      I’m glad that you took the time to create the boundaries. It’s an intentional act that doesn’t always happen. Thank you for stopping by Julie! God bless!

    • Melissa

      They are so important! And because of their importance it can be difficult to know how to navigate them at time. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. God bless!

  7. It’s so amazing and awesome and humbling at the same time to think that Jesus is the ULTIMATE friend, that He is also our Lord and Savior. It’s pretty wonderful to think about how Jesus mirrors the perfect friendship, of how He came down from heaven to bridge that unbridgeable gap between us and God the Father so that we could be called friends of God.

    I loved how you had us evaluate how the friendships help us grow; I think one of the biggest things for me is, ‘Am I able to be the sweet savor of Christ Jesus to them, and do we edify each other (if we’re both believers?’ If the other person doesn’t know Jesus, i don’t want to abandon them, but I can’t be as close to them either.

    • Melissa

      It is amazing, indeed, Emily that Jesus is the ultimate friend. And even more, He WANTS to be our friend! It is important to evaluate our relationships frequently so that we can grow and help our friends to grow as well. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your insights. God bless!

  8. Sometimes it’s so hard to put your finger on the issue, and I love how your list helps to understand what a friendship should be. I also really like how you wanted us to put ourselves to the same test. Great post! Coming to you via the #GraceandTruthlinkup.

    • Melissa

      Thank you for stopping by Ashley! Yes, it’s important to evaluate not only our friends but also how we are presenting as friends to others. God bless!

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