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  1. Melissa, I love the title of this post. Your five tips are great and things we all should be practicing as married couples. I especially like the focus on the positive. There is no place for criticism in a marriage! At least it certainly doesn’t provide a safe place where intimacy can grow. Great post, Melissa. Keep them coming! – Amy
    www,stylingrannymama.com

    • melissa

      Thank you Amy! Yes, focusing on the positive is such a crucial part of marriage. Otherwise it can be so easy to allow negative thoughts and feelings to harbor and grow. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  2. Sometimes we get so caught up in other things in life that we forget those positives. “At the end of each day thank God for the positive aspects of your spouse that you experienced that day.” <3 Thank you for sharing.

    • melissa

      Thank you Stephanie. We have the choice everyday to view our spouse as a gift or as a hindrance. If we’re not actively choosing “gift” than we can be unconsciously choosing hindrance. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  3. All good tips on keeping the butterflies alive in a marriage. Perhaps the best piece of advice is what you’ve mentioned here throughout all the tips, that it takes effort to love another person. When we invest time and effort into loving others, the rewards are so worth it. Wonderful points to come back to at any stage of marriage, for women and men.

    • melissa

      Thank you Andrea! Yes, it absolutely takes effort to love another person. But man the rewards are worth it, right?! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  4. Delighting in each other is something that all couples need to do. If they don’t, they need to ask God to change them to be able to delight in each other again. Love is not just outer actions. It’s inward delight.

    • melissa

      Your so right, Susan. Love is first an inward choice followed up by outward actions. Thank you for reading and sharing your insight. God bless!

  5. I love this. I think about all of the above sometimes when I’m frustrated and reflect back to when I first met my husband. I have realize that I can have both. We have a unique opportunity in our marriage for renewing all of this every time he deploys or goes out for a long training. Thank you.

    • melissa

      Thank you Maryann! That’s awesome that you reflect on these things when you are frustrated. That’s also a very positive spin on your husband deploying. Please than him for his service to our country! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  6. This is a very cute post with great ideas! Sometimes people just accept that butterflies will just go away in their marriages, but nurturing them is so healthy for your relationship! Thank you so much for this reminder, and for this practical application.

    • melissa

      You’re right, many people do just accept that the butterflies will die. But marriage is supposed to be joyous as much as comforting. Just like our relationship with Jesus. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • melissa

      Yes, now that my kids are 8 and 5 it’s nice to be able to have more uninterrupted conversations. Sometimes I just enjoy engaging in something with my husband than makes us laugh together. Thank you for stopping by Diana and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  7. Melissa- I have a post about butterflies coming up in a few weeks! God must be trying to tell me something about my marriage. Get those butterflies back!

    • melissa

      Great minds, right?! 🙂 The butterflies are the fun part of marriage! Enjoy getting them back. Thank for stopping by and sharing. God bless!

    • melissa

      It is reviving to a marriage. And while it takes some effort the result is more fun and joy in the marriage! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  8. Beautiful, Melissa. Focusing on our spouse’s positive qualities is so important. We’ve been married for 27 years, and it’s easy to “let things ride.” But our marriages are worth more than that. Thanks for the encouragement to build each other up and look for the things that keep the spark alive!

    • melissa

      Congratulations on 27 years! Yes, it can be easy to let things ride but the butterflies are part of the fun and joy of the marriage. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  9. My husband and I get breakfast at Chick-Fil-A on Fridays. Our girls know it is our time! We also teach second grade Sunday School together and are always on the lookout for more shared experiences! Gotta keep the fires burning 🙂

    • melissa

      That’s great that you guys have designated time together. It’s so important! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experiences. God bless!

  10. You are so right! “It’s important to focus on the positives once married as well.” This can be so difficult when we throw ourselves into rhythms and routines…When you push two very different lives together in marriage, the paradise feelings can be quickly fleeting. Finding a common “fun thing” to do together has really helped us! Even finding projects outside of normal everyday ones, has helped us learn to pull from each other’s strengths. This helps each of us see how special and important the other is. Plus it’s always nice to see my hubby do the heavy lifting! 😉

    • melissa

      That’s awesome that you guys have taken the time to come up with common things and projects to keep the fun and joy in the marriage! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experiences. God bless!

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