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  1. My sister adopted 4 kids, and most of them have this attachment disorder. She adopted them later in life. The youngest of the four was 9 years old, and she had already been harmed in so many ways that she has still never learned to trust anyone, even though she’s 18 now.

    • melissa

      I’m so sorry to hear your niece is still struggling. It can sadly be a life long journey for them to experience healing and peace. People’s sins can have such horrendous effects on others. God Bless!

    • melissa

      That is so true! And sadly the children don’t even understand what they are fighting against or for! Thank you for reading and commenting. God Bless!

  2. I’ve never seen words put to this. Thanks for sharing such great information. We may experience adoption in our future (for grandchildren) and this is good to know. Thaks for sharing with such grace and sensitivity.

    • melissa

      It is a very difficult topic because it is the potential result of people not caring for infants and children in the way God intended. Thank you for reading and commenting! God Bless!

    • melissa

      It is a topic that is dear to my heart. I have had the honor of helping hundreds of children who have struggled with attachment disorders. Thank you for reading and commenting! God Bless!

  3. I have heard of attachment disorders, but this is the first time I’ve heard of the two different types and seen them so clearly explained. I work with children on a daily basis, many of whom exhibit many of these behaviors. This is so helpful to understand the deeper brain workings that are going on behind the scenes!

    • melissa

      It unfortunately is not a topic that is often brought to light. I’m not sure that adoption agencies are as forth coming about this topic as they could/should be because of risk that people may not adopt if they understand all of the potential issues. Thank you for reading and commenting! God Bless!

  4. Great to see you cover this here. We have two adopted daughters ourselves – one we got as an infant and the other at 22 months old. We definitely know what you are talking about here though we have dealt very minimally with this ourselves.

    • melissa

      Praise God your daughters have not had to deal with the pain and hardship attachment issues can lead to! Thank you for reading and commenting. God Bless!

  5. A dear friend of mine was a foster mom before adopting three of her foster children. I couldn’t agree more: it’s a calling. I don’t know that I have the strength to carry a change of through that journey. For some, it’s catastrophic what they’ve suffered. So…I pray and I love on the children and I’m their safe place when they want to spend the night out.

    • melissa

      It is such a difficult process for so many children and families. My prayer is that more people understand attachment disorders so they can meet the kids where they are instead of believing the kids are just being “naughty”. Thank you for reading and helping to take care of God’s children in anyway you can! God Bless!

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