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    • melissa

      Yes, it’s definitely okay and even good to swap things. I know I would be incredibly bored with the same reward! I’m glad the post was beneficial. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • melissa

      I bet that’s difficult at times! But it’s a great opportunity to get to know and understand each child better. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your experience! God bless!

  1. Some great advice here. When my kids got to be teenagers, I listed out their chores on the fridge. That way I didn’t have to nag and they didn’t feel that old teenage irritation at authority.

    • melissa

      That’s a great process. It increases the responsibility for your children and it decrease your engagement in the process. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your tips. God bless!

  2. I LOVE THIS SO MUCH!! And I don’t tweet, but I love the tweet quote!!!!!!!! Such amazing wisdom here!! and the links that you provided……….. I remember those articles, and ………. I can hardly wait to get THE BOOK in my hands. Melissa, I will buy extra, to have on hand to give away !!!!!!!! You are a blessing times a million (love, heart, smiley face…)

  3. When one of my sons had a fear of swimming all the way across the pool, I told him I would give him a chocolate bar it he tried. Because of the reward, he overcame his fear.

    • melissa

      Ha! Yes sometimes dangling a carrot (or a chocolate bar) is enough motivation to give the extra umph! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your example. God bless!

  4. I never thought about the rewards we get as an adult. Thanks for pointing those out! It definitely makes me think about rewards and consequences for kids just a bit differently.

    • melissa

      Yes, it’s funny how we don’t tend to think in those terms as an adult. But it does help us to understand the benefit and motivation to use rewards for our kids. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  5. “We need to meet our kids where they are and work towards getting them to where we want them to be.” Yes, yes, yes! I’m a mother of three kids and we are learning to treat each one as an individual. They all require something more or less or not at all. It’s definitely a learning process but thankfully God is imparting His wisdom to helps us along the way. Great read!

    • melissa

      Thank you Christina! Yes, each child is different and is going to require different approaches and interactions. We can’t try to make them all cookie cutter. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  6. Great advice! My girls are grown now. We used to use the chart system and they were the ones to check what they completed. I wish I had thought of alternating back then. But what we had in place seemed to work lol. Thank you for all your wisdom filled posts! ❤

    • melissa

      No need to change things if it continues to work, but I know a lot of kids tend to need a change up every once in a while! Thank you for stopping by Donna and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  7. Great advice, Melissa! I love how you point out that it’s unique to the child. We have definitely learned this with our two, very different, boys. I see how one has immense confidence and needs different things for completing a task. Whereas, our other needs words of affirmation and for us to be happy with him. Blanketing our parenting would create two confused and possibly resentful adults. Thank you for your insight! <3

    • melissa

      I also have two quite different children! One is more of a people-pleaser and the other is more confident and competitive. They need very different things. As parents our role is to lead them in the ways they need to go. Thank you for reading and sharing your experiences. God bless!

  8. GREAT ideas Melissa! I run women’s workshops and this is often a topic they want to discuss. I reiterate your point that even as adults, there’s very little (if anything) that we do without some sort of psychological, emotional, connection-related, etc. reward. This is a great article and I’m happy to be visiting from Life of Faith today 🙂 Nice to “meet” you!

    • melissa

      Thank you Meg! It’s always fun to “meet” new bloggers through the linkups. Your workshops sound great and much needed. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts and experiences. God bless!

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