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  1. It must be hard to get a child to trust when that trust has been shattered in the past. It seems like the distrust would be instinctual until there is some way to verify over years that there is someone who is actually physically safe to be with.

    • Melissa

      Unfortunately, yes. The process of trust and experiencing safety is a long one. It has it’s ups and downs. Forward progress and two steps backward. But the calling is to love our children (from all circumstances) unconditionally. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • Melissa

      Thank you Heather. I really cringe when I see books, posts, or articles on “Do this…” or “This one discipline tool will…” It preys on the emotions of parents trying to do what is best for their children. Thank you for stopping by and reading. God bless!

  2. Thank you for sharing that every child is unique and the situation is unique. I think that is most frustrating to parents, we want to try what other’s have found successful and yet for our child it doesn’t work. Having a bunch of different resources is so helpful!

    • Melissa

      It can be really frustrating. Or when a different assumes that if you try their parenting approach things will be all better. Blanket parenting advice rarely works. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

    • Melissa

      I’m glad you found the post beneficial, Alice. Yes, discipline is very different and takes more intentional thought for children who have endured trauma. Thank you for stopping by and for passing the article along. God bless!

  3. As you mentioned discipline is a hard subject, our children were all so different and what worked for one did not work for the others. Add in a traumatic experience and it would be so much harder. Thank you for your expertise and help that you give parents.

    • Melissa

      Thank you Kathleen! Yes, it is a hard topic and one that creates much frustration for the parents and the child. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  4. I love this. Thank you for sharing. It can be hard to show patience in parenting. Especially when we find ourselves at our last end. Thankfully, we have a perfect example of a Father who is loving and kind, who is trustworthy and even when we have run away and rejected him opens his loving arms. May we be able to do the same!

    • Melissa

      Yes! We need to more often look to His example on how to love our children no matter how troubled and wounded they are. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. God bless!

  5. Melissa, to be consistent and patient and let them know you are for them is a powerful way to reach any child. And traumatized children require that in even larger helpings. Great content!

    • Melissa

      Thank you, Debbie! Yes, traumatized children need even more intentional parenting. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. God bless!

  6. I love the affirming words you laid out as examples! Words heard over and over will stick with a person… my favorite phrase is ” We’ll get through this together!” That’s a great reminder for myself, as a parent! I will definitely pass this along to families I know, who are considering adoption and foster care. <3

    • Melissa

      Starting out with supporting the child as a person is so vital. After that the emotions and behaviors can be addressed and taught. Thank you for reading and sharing with others. God bless!

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