Change is Necessary for Growth
It’s often said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. While that is not the actual definition of insanity, it does make a good point.
I often work with individuals who describe wanting to change an aspect of their life. But when we start talking about necessary goals, action steps, tools, etc. I start to see hesitancy. Why?
Because change is hard!
It requires behaving, thinking, and even feeling differently than what you have been doing.
Growth requires change. And change requires behaving, thinking, and even feeling differently than what you have been doing.
And that’s hard but certainly not impossible.
You are capable of growth
Change often doesn’t happen overnight. It’s a process that requires intentional thought and established goals.
In meeting with clients I discuss with them our treatment goals. What are they wanting to get out of therapy? We set goals and break them down into smaller objectives. As time progresses we look back at the goals to see if we are achieving them. And then either reevaluate why change hasn’t been happening, look to add the next goal, or start to discuss no longer needing therapy.
In setting goals with my clients, I use S.M.A.R.T. goals.
Specific – break down the goal to one simple area of change. (who, what, when, where, and/or how)
Measurable – make sure you have the ability to show or test that change has taken place.
Achievable – the goal will challenge you but still needs to be capable of attaining.
Relevant – ensure the specific goal is going to help you in your overall growth process.
Timely – set the goal for enough time so that change and growth can take place but not too much time that motivation becomes stagnant.
This process will work in any and all areas of your life if you continue to set these types of goals and then do what is necessary to be successful for that goal.
Ephesians 4:22-24 (NIV)
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
You are worthy of growth
Don’t let things from your past stop you from seeking growth.
I’ve worked with clients who didn’t think they deserved to be out from under whatever poor choice or decision they once made.
Their own guilt and shame was stopping them from making the next steps. The goals were appropriate. The abilities were there. But they would continue to sabotage growth because they didn’t believe they were worthy of receiving it.
Friends, God wants us to flourish! He wants us to continue to better ourselves in all areas of our lives. For His glory!
Romans 6:4 (NIV)We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life.
- Relationship with God
- Connection with your spouse
- Increased self-esteem and self-worth
- Interactions with your friends
- Patience as a parent
- Involvement in your community
- Career advancement
If you have tried to change these areas in the past why didn’t it work? Were your goals too loft? Did you set goals?
Or more importantly.
Have you asked for forgiveness from past decisions and choices? Are you holding yourself back because of guilt and shame?
Philippians 4:13 (NASB)
I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.
You can take the next steps! Challenge yourself to seek change so you can achieve growth!
Here’s a printable to get you started on setting your goals.
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