Women of Class – Becoming a Titus 2 Woman
Our society has made a significant push to attempt to elevate women and the view of women. However, the process in which it has done so has been without class.
The game plan appears to be to do everything that men do but in the process tear down men. We are told to be strong, courageous, bold and assertive. (Not bad things I might add.) But somehow these characteristics are no longer okay for men to be. And these characteristics are being viewed as important to have instead of others as opposed to in addition.
As women, we are currently being told we can do anything we want. But if our choice is to be a Christian woman who loves our husband and our family then somehow we are holding women back. If we prefer femininity, gentleness and class over sexual and provocative we are not taking a stand.
How did this get so skewed?
We are in desperate need of reminding women why God created us in the manner He did. To remember the importance of our role. Not as less than but also not better. We are men’s counterpart.
I think we need to realign and stand firm in how God desires women to be. So that we then can teach younger women and our daughters how to be women of God with class.
*Note – I’m also not saying that men are without fault. But let’s remember, two wrongs don’t make a right. Titus 2 also addresses men and the behaviors they are supposed to exude. This post, however, is focusing on women.
Titus 2:3-5 (NIV)
3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Let’s break it down by verse.
Titus 2:3 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good.
Teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live,
The definition of reverent is to show deep and solemn respect. To go further, the definition of respect is to admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
So to deeply admire God in the way He wants women to live.
This is not only an act of obedience to God but also viewed as a privilege to carry out the role that God has designed for us.
Not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine,
A slanderer is someone who makes false and damaging statements about someone. This can also include gossip. How often do we talk negatively about others? We are called to raise each other up not tear them down. (Usually in an attempt to build ourselves up.)
So why the part about addicted to much wine? First, it doesn’t say ‘don’t drink wine’. It emphasized addicted to much wine.
Addicted means to be physically and mentally dependent on a particular substance, and unable to stop taking it without incurring adverse effects.
We are not to allow anything or anyone to get in the way of our relationship with God. To seek Him first above all others. If a person is addicted to something. This becomes the thing they go to.
For the past few years there has been a fad for women to celebrate and glorify the drinking of wine. There are shirts, mugs, posters, and Youtube channels all emphasizing this phenomenon.
But to teach what is good.
Good is God! It is teaching others about God and ways to glorify Him!
Titus 2:4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,
Then, meaning, the older women need to fulfill the items in verse three, first, before they can help the younger women. We can’t teach others how to go if we ourselves are doing the very things we tell them not to do. Or don’t actually believe is important to do.
Urge the younger women
Urge means to try earnestly or persistently to persuade, recommend, and/or encourage (someone) to do something. This is not a passive action!
to love their husbands and children
How do you think about your husband and children? Is there resentment and bitterness in your heart towards them? Do you ever fantasize about what you would be able to do/achieve if you were single?
These are areas you need to pray over and repent of. We cannot have love and hate in our heart at the same time. And yes, resentment and bitterness is a form of hate.
Titus 2:5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
to be self-controlled and pure
Self-control is the ability to control oneself, in particular one’s emotions and desires or the expression of them in one’s behavior, especially in difficult situations.
Pure is not mixed or adulterated with any other substance or material; free of contamination; wholesome and untainted by immorality, especially that of a sexual nature.
So we are not to be driven by our emotions and desires but rather remain rooted in godly principles and sound logic.
to be busy at home
Don’t read more into this statement than it says. It does not say women have to stay at home. It says be busy at home. I work full-time outside of the home. But that doesn’t give me the right to do nothing once I return.
Kind is having or showing a friendly, generous, and considerate nature. I’m actually saddened that I felt it necessary to add this definition. But kindness is not being taught or encouraged with the level of importance as it should be. Instead we are seeing it recommended to women to fight, push, and budge their way if life.
and to be subject to their husbands
This use of the word “subject” does mean under the authority of. Other translations use the word obedient and submissive.
I know this can cause many women to cringe. Especially in our society of encouraging independent women.
But let’s remember that the marriage relationship is supposed to emulate our relationship with Jesus. He loves and cares for us and wants what is best for us. We then, in turn, trust Him and want to abide.
This is supposed to be true for husbands and wives as well. He can’t point our fingers as husbands saying they are not holding up their part of the deal, if we also are not living out our role as well.
So is a conjunction. It’s used to to help us understand why it’s important that we to do all of the aforementioned statements. You could also say “and for this reason”.
that no one will malign the word of God
NKJV says – that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
NASB says – so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
NLT says – Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
As Christian women, we are representatives of God. What we do and how we live our lives should be honoring to God and encouraging others to seek God as well. That is our first and foremost role!
We are to check our behaviors and ask if how we are presenting ourselves is glorifying to God. And we are to teach other Christian women to desire to do the same.
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