The Road to Finding Your Identity After Adoption
“But they didn’t want me. Why didn’t they want me?”
That question never gets easy to hear and answers are even harder.
As a Christian mental health therapist, I’ve worked with children, teens, and adults for eight years. Of all the clients, however, God has created a special place in my heart for children who have endured trauma. I often work with children who have been removed from their biological home due to abuse and/or neglect and now are navigating a new foster placement or have been adopted.
My role for these children is to be a safe person and environment to ask these tough questions and to help them work on understanding who they are outside of the life they’ve known.
As I write this, I can’t help but be bombarded with face after face of little ones who have cried in my office over the loss of their biological parent. The same parent who harmed them.
When I first started as a therapist, this was the hardest part for me to understand. These children are often abandoned and rejected by their biological parents and yet remain loyal and protective of them. They may have been adopted into a home that is loving and safe but many would willingly leave to go back to what they know and love in their old life.
So often, most traumatized children don’t believe a loving and safe home really exists. Or at the very least, they believe they don’t deserve one.
The majority of my work with these children is helping them to replace the false truths they’ve been duped to believe. Their worth is not based upon their behaviors. They did not deserve the abuse they endured. They are not unlovable.
To read the rest of the post click over to Lori Schumaker’s site where I am sharing this post on her
Chosen and Worthy series.
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