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Boys are Made in God’s Image – With a Spirit of Power, Courage and Strength
Society has decided that girls are the new boys. Girls are being told to be strong, powerful, bold, brave, courageous, dominating, forceful, etc. They are being taught to take on those characteristics without embracing what it means to be a girl made in the image of God. Girls were meant to be classy not sassy!
But what about the boys? In an effort to bring up the girls it has come at a great cost to the boys. They are being marketed as less than. The male image has become trampled on and devalued. Go into any boys apparel department and you will find graphic t-shirts glorifying laziness, lack of motivation, boredom, or the focus on playing video games and eating.
Focus on the marketing the next time you go into a mall. The males in the ads are being placed in passive positions and stances. Shoulders hunched forward. Heads down and looking up to the side. This is with purpose to send a message. Now look at the stances and positions of the females.
Our school systems are no better. I’m a Christian mental health therapist. I work with many children who legitimately have ADHD. But simply being a boy does not qualify! Schools as we know them today are geared towards girls. As a whole, girls are more able to sit still and focus on one task for longer periods of time than boys. And if a boy is unable to sit still for hours at a time and not talk then he must have ADHD and get put on medication. I’m not okay with that. We shouldn’t be okay with that.
Attempting to build up someone (girls) at the demise of someone else (boys) in not okay or good. In fact it is pure evil.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.
Paul wrote to Timothy as a way to pass the torch, in a sense, as Paul was imprisoned and nearing death. By accounts, Timothy was a shy person by nature but Paul reminds him in 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.
Timidity, passivity, apprehension, and procrastination comes from lack of self-worth and anxiety. I am seeing an influx in adolescent boys who are increasing struggling with anxiety. We spend countless sessions focusing on their talents and interests to develop their identity, worth, and self-esteem.
Society is stripping away boys’ self-worth! By asking, forcing, or demanding that a boy not be allowed to tap into his sense of strength and power, they are being diminished.
Boys are made in the image of God! You will not find a time in the bible when God, in any form, is timid, passive, or apprehensive.
Joshua 10:25 “Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Be strong and courageous. This is what the Lord will do to all the enemies you are going to fight.”
The phrase “be strong and courageous” is said 11 times in the bible within four books: Deuteronomy, Joshua, 1 Chronicles, and 2 Chronicles. In each scripture verse it is talking about taking action in some way.
I chose Joshua 10:25 to make a point and focus on the last part of the verse, “…to all the enemies you are going to fight.”
Fight! Good against evil. Fight!
Boys are made in God’s image! Think of the themes little boys play! Good guys verses bad guys. Superheros verses villains. Cops verses robbers. This is inherent and innate.
Boys believe in doing good and they were built for action to do it!
Let Boys be Boys
As a mom, I’ll admit this can be hard at times. My son is creative and imaginative. And when he is imagining he is energetic, active, and loud! So there are times that I just want peace in my home and I want to squelch the noise. But, if I take the time to actually listen to the themes of his play, it is almost always about good verses evil. He is acting out his spirit of power, strength, and courage!
Now of course there are times that my son needs to slow down and be calm (the dinner table). But I try to make sure when I remind him of “there’s a time and a place” that I actually provide a time and a place for him to be the boy God wants him to be.
Let your boy-
- pretend fight
- play and/or make pretend weapons
- be physical
- play sports
- be in martial arts
- take risks (even if he may get a little hurt)
- climb trees, walls, rocks, etc.
- protect/defend someone else
- go on adventures
There are great resources to help develop and foster your boy’s spirit of power, strength, and courage!
And for your husband, too!
I sincerely pray that this post meets you where you are today and helps you to embrace and encourage your boy to be the boy God designed him to be!