1. This is so true. I learned by recognizing the basic stages of growth, I could tailor my parenting strategies to match the kid. Even without trauma, maturation happens at different rates.

    • melissa

      Maturation does occur at different rates. This is parenting advice that I give to all of my clients but there tends to be a larger disparity for children who have endured trauma. It can be so detrimental for them if they are not met where they are. Thank you for reading and commenting! God bless!

    • melissa

      Thank you for such kind words! Emotional age is helpful for parents to remember when having expectations and beneficial for the children to be successful! Thank you for reading and commenting! God bless!

  2. This has been a helpful post as a parent. I guess I never thought about emotional age, but it makes sense. I feel for the kids who haven’t experienced attachment or love. Absence of those can create lifelong issues.
    Thanks for sharing this!

    • melissa

      There does tend to be a large discrepancy between emotional age and chronological age for children with attachment issues. This often can happen more than parents realize with children who have high cognitive abilities when they are younger. So parents may teach to the high intellectual ability and then forget that emotionally they may be age appropriate, or even younger. I’m glad the post was helpful! Thank you for reading and commenting! God bless!

  3. Adopted children’s emotional age is often way below the actual age of the child because of all the issues they have faced. May God heal their inner being and enable them to flourish in their new homes!

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